Comments on: Is It Rape If…

By: Jen McLellan, CBE

Jen McLellan, CBE — Sat, 16 Dec 2023 02:43:10 +0000

In reply to Jessica. It doesn't seem like you're sorry, Jessica. You felt compelled to comment something so cruel on a stranger's blog. I'm sorry, truly, that you're hurting, and I wish you all the best!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 14 Dec 2023 20:12:58 +0000

I’m sorry, but you saying you were raped is silly. You wanted him to follow you. Got naked. Fooled around. Sorry but you really tried to milk this. You could have ruined someone’s entire life and future throwing that word around because you felt bad. Lame.

By: plussizebirth

plussizebirth — Wed, 10 Dec 2014 00:58:47 +0000

In reply to liz. Liz your story breaks my heart. The fact that you were ignored when you reached out for help is appalling. Though the fact that you're now able to help others lifts my spirits! Thank you for sharing.

By: liz

liz — Tue, 09 Dec 2014 23:15:30 +0000

I have been raped by most of the men I’ve been with, because I was trying to find love and didn’t think that it was rape, because I sought them all out for companionship. I had the sexual assault detective for my area ignore my calls and felt utterly alone in my experience until after I was in a committed, truly loving relationship. I wish I had known I wasn’t at fault because it really affected my self esteem, but now I am able to share my experience and help others.

By: plussizebirth

plussizebirth — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 04:41:18 +0000

In reply to Shalyn. You're amazing Shalyn!

By: Shalyn

Shalyn — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 03:39:50 +0000

Thank you for this. I read it every time you share it. I was raped by a “friend” and became pregnant. I had many calling me a slut, telling me to abort, and even my own grandmother wished a miscarriage on me. Not one of these people believed it was a rape, because I knew him. I invited him over. I didnt call the cops. I wasn’t injured…

I was raped, and I am the only one who needs to believe it. However, it did bring my my greatest joy, my daughter Harmony. THANK YOU for sharing your story! People need to understand that rape is rape.

By: plussizebirth

plussizebirth — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 19:24:32 +0000

In reply to Priscilla Fowler. Priscilla thank you for sharing that. It doesn't seem right or fair but we live in a society where victim blaming is rampant. Congrats on TTC and I'm glad you've found my work to be helpful. Sending you lots of ***baby dust*** your way!

By: plussizebirth

plussizebirth — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 19:20:29 +0000

In reply to Kim Mellberg. Thanks Kim XO

By: Kim Mellberg

Kim Mellberg — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 15:13:38 +0000

Oh Jen!

You are such a strong person, thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry you had to go through that. Once again, you are helping others with your experiences. Look how many women are able to share their story, just here on your page. Hugs to you girl! XO

By: Priscilla Fowler

Priscilla Fowler — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 09:10:43 +0000

I worked for a women’s shelter and rape resource last school year for my graduate internship. I worked in the shelter and in the court setting.

After last year, It still amazes me that women’s rights are not considered by most. Our culture has to change in order to realize that NO means NO 100 percent of the time. What is SO sad is that most women that I worked with did not even recognize that their rights were violated because of interactions similar to yours and because of the justice system. I have to say, If I were raped I would have second thoughts about going to court or even reporting the rape (as a crisis counselor, I would have to go though the process because I understand that my actions speak for many, but the scared woman in me would think otherwise). The justice system is broken where rape survivors are concerned. The shame one goes through in order to get justice is the reason why so many rape cases are dropped.

You are a brave woman! I’m so glad you put this out there. It’s never too late to advocate and get help. I have had women seek help for the first time from past sexual assault and abuse that took place over 20 years ago. It’s really never to late to reclaim your life after sexual assault.

FIY-I’m plus size TTC and I have enjoyed your blog posts! There’s not much out there for us. Most of the articles that mention overweight women and TCC fill me with SO MUCH FEAR. I couldn’t sleep and came here remind myself that I’m not alone. 🙂