Why I’m Not Mad About Kate’s Plus Size Pregnancy Storyline On This Is Us

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Just a few short weeks ago I wrote the article This Is Us Plus Size Pregnancy Storyline – Plus Size Fans Speak Out. I was holding my breath as we learned about Kate’s pregnancy.

I was nervous how this storyline would play out considering TLC’s show My Big Fat Fabulous Life took us from Whitney Way Thore Is Pregnant to Whitney Way Thore Is Not Pregnant in 1 week.

My expectations were not high.

Yet, I couldn’t help but hope they’d play through a positive plus size pregnancy storyline.

Kate had a size friendly care provider – that was awesome to see! Her partner was over-the-moon thrilled about her pregnancy. He was encouraging her to embrace this experience rather than focus on her fears of losing the baby (I’m pretty sure this is what they call foreshadowing – silly me).

I thought about how an uncomplicated pregnancy of such a visibly large TV character could help to normalize plus size pregnancy.

Then I remembered this is Hollywood. Bubble burst!

So, when I saw Bustle’s article, Kate Lost Her Baby On ‘This is Us’ But Plus Size Women Like Me Do Have Healthy Pregnancies, I was upset but not surprised.

When I finally made time to watch the show, I anticipated writing a furious rant afterward. I was even thinking up titles to the article while watching the opening credits.

As the hour unfolded, I found myself a blubbering mess of emotions. My agenda of hoping a TV drama could follow through with a plus size pregnancy didn’t seem as important as the story they were actually telling.

The story of Kate having a miscarriage.

I understood it all…

The shock at the doctor’s office.
Self-blame.
Pretending everything was fine when it clearly wasn’t.
Pushing her partner away.
Self-punishment.
Needing so desperately to hear the words, “It’s not your fault” from her mother.
Finding forgiveness.
Reconnecting with her partner.
And knowing that when the time is right, healing is possible.

Only everything Kate went through in an hour, I’ve processed over the past five years since my miscarriage.

How can I be upset with a TV show that made me feel all the feels and helps to show the depths of emotions people experience because of pregnancy loss?

1 in 4 people will experience a miscarriage. The more shows that can help people to understand what it’s like and break the stigma – the better!

Don’t get me wrong, I still am hoping to see Kate’s plus size pregnancy storyline in the future. However, as a loss mom, I can’t be mad at a show for tackling miscarriage with such a depth and compassion.

Kate’s Plus Size Pregnancy On This Is Us

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